POSSIBLE PROBLEM PRODUCERS
Stop things going wrong in your life!
By Stephanie Relfe B.Sc.
Unfortunately, like it or not, a small percentage of the population are quite destructive. Consciously or unconsciously they do not want us to be free, happy, healthy and the best we can be. What they want is to control us. They want to 'keep us under their thumb'.
They do this because they have no personal power of their own. Instead, they get their power by keeping other people under them. The people who are the extremes of this are called 'suppressive' people. Extreme examples are Hitler, the Inquisition or the Ku Klux Klan. Slightly less destructive suppressives might be con-men or rapists.
Most of us do not meet people of this extreme. However, there are varying degrees of this type of person. Further down the scale can be ordinary people who just like to keep others 'under their thumb'. These people hate to see others doing well. They don't want to work on themselves to improve themselves - but they don't want to see others getting better either.
However, they may not show this side of themselves to you. It has been estimated that about 1-2% of the population are truly suppressive. One way you can recognise them is that after a while you begin to notice that you never feel especially good around them. You may be feeling good until you meet them and then they might say something that APPEARS to be okay, but which never-the-less makes you feel terrible.
Unfortunately, If another person is closely connected with a person with a high percentage of destructive tendencies, they can take on the characteristics of the suppressive person themselves. It is a contagious disease, a bit like the way a person will start to speak the dialect of the people around them if they move to a new country. The affected person is not a full-blown suppressive, but once they have increased their number of destructive tendencies they can become what I call a 'Possible Problem Producer'.
A Possible Problem Producer causes problems to themselves and those with whom they contact. Often wherever a Possible Problem Producer is, things just seem to go wrong. Accidents happen. They may happen a LOT. People might start doing things like banging their head by accident, having car accidents, losing things or losing money. They may get constant colds or flues. It has been estimated that 20% of illnesses, including mental illnesses, are due to contact with a destructive person. In extreme cases, nothing goes right.
One symptom of being a Possible Problem Producer, or of being in close contact with a suppressive person, can be that of going "up and down" emotionally. One day the person may be on top of the world. The next moment, they are 'on the floor' feeling very depressed. Later on, they will be as high as a kite again. If a person is free of influence of destructive people, they will be much calmer and happier most of the time. Any changes in their sense of wellbeing will go up and down like a gentle wave - but if they are in contact with a suppressive person their sense of wellbeing will go up and down like the French Alps. This is because as soon as a suppressive sees a person doing well, they like to 'shoot them down' to bring them to a level below that of the suppressive person.
The world is not the solid, separated place it appears to us. The universe is a hologram. Everything is connected on an energy level with everything else. (For more information on this, read "The Holographic Universe" by Michael Talbot). Possible Problem Producers have a chaotic energy which can make things go wrong around them. In addition, the WORDS THAT THEY USE can have a strong effect on others, ESPECIALLY THOSE WHO ARE NOT AWARE OF WHAT THEY ARE DOING.
The suppressive person may be the life and soul of the party. They may appear to be well dressed, popular and successful. They may even have a lot of charisma. On the other hand, they may appear as a victim of society, with poor health, little money and a bad appearance. You cannot recognise them on looks or talent. But have a listen to the WORDS that they use and you will see that they are more interested in putting people down than pulling them up.
Destructive people can have a strong hold over us. Unfortunately, sometimes they can be a "best" friend, parent or relationship partner. There can be a lot of emotion associated with this person, which makes it hard for us to act rationally. Therefore, an evaluation form is provided below to help people RATIONALLY evaluate just how many destructive characteristics a particular person possesses.
This form helps us to find out just who may be having a very negative effect on us. Remember, it is not what you think of the person that counts. It is the WORDS that that person uses. (If you could hear their thoughts, you would find that a destructive person is projecting very negative thoughts which are helping to cause the accidents).
Please don't be too harsh with these people, because that is a suppressive act. Most of us have at least some destructive characteristics in us. After you have evaluated the people that you think are Possible Problem Producers, please evaluate yourself. Then reduce any destructive characteristics that you may have.
You can do another evaluation on yourself at some time in the future to see how successful your changes to yourself were. Hopefully, any destructive characteristics you may have had will have reduced, once you were made aware of them. They will probably also reduce if you remove yourself from the effects of any truly suppressive people. By the way, destructive people can also be organisations. They often include newspapers or television.
Unfortunately, there is not a lot you can do to help a truly suppressive person. They do not want to change, and you cannot force them to.
The general rule of thumb is that you don't want to be in close association with anyone who scores more than 100 - 300 / 1200 destructive tendencies. If you scored yourself as having a destructive score higher than 300, don't worry! The fact that you are reading this means that you are not a truly destructive person - you are willing to change. However, anyone who scores themselves higher than 100 - 300 / 1200 is their own worst enemy. Their happiness, health and cash flow are probably being affected. Start changing now and see the improvements that start to appear.
Hang out with the people that you want to be like, so that you become more like them. If you are having a lot of accidents or mishaps in your life, or if you gave yourself an destructive score higher than 100 - 300 / 1200, there is probably someone close to you, or whom you are connected to, who scores 800/1200 or higher on the destructive scale (given below).
Here is the evaluation criteria for helping you to evaluate how many destructive characteristics a person has:
You're Not Fat -
Problem Producer (PPP)
Please Note: The key is what they say - not how they say it.
When this kind of information first came out, I understand that a number of people went back to the destructive person, who was sometimes their parents, and told them that they were suppressive and never wanted to see them again. PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS!!! It is a VERY suppressive act to tell another that they are suppressive, or to talk about them to other people. Please practice some compassion for these people, even if this may be a little difficult when you realise what has been going on. Recognise that they are partly crazy. But work quietly and determinedly to get yourself free of their influence!
Problem Producer (PPP)
Name of person doing the evaluation:_______________________________
Name of person being evaluated:__________________________________
information is very new. Once you have finished your evaluation, please
read the whole article again, so that you can pick up anything that you
might have missed the first time and more fully understand it.
good movie to watch about suppressives is ``A
Few Good Men" with Tom Cruise, Demi Moore and Jack Nicholson.
Check out the suppressive played by Nicholson.
Examples of people improving their lives by disconnecting from a Destructive Person
A client of mine came to me for a kinesiology session. She had a few pains and health problems. We fixed her problems up but when she came back to me two weeks later, her problems were back. Muscle testing showed that the cause of her problems was negative emotions. It appeared that her boss was a destructive person. She evaluated her boss with the form below, and gave her a destructive score of around 1000 / 1200. After that, my client quit her job, found a new job within a week, and her problems went away and did not return. And she was a lot happier into the bargain.
Another client of mine was a successful, happily married woman. But she used to cry a lot for no apparent reason. Eventually we did a Possible Problem Producers evaluation on people close to her. Her previous husband came up with a high destructive score. She threw out some photos of holidays that she had spent with her ex-husband which had been hanging in her house. Immediately her troubles lifted, and they did not return.
A story I heard from a friend of mine. He had a client come to him who was feeling terrible. Things were going wrong for her. She was in a good relationship and there did not seem to be any destructive people in contact with her. However, they did a graph of when she was feeling good and things were going right for her, and when she was feeling terrible and things were going wrong for her. Then she realised that things started going wrong straight after she got a phone call from an old boyfriend. When they evaluated him for destructive characteristics, sure enough he got a high score. She then got together everything that reminded her of him, including every gift he had ever given her. Not surprisingly, most of the gifts had broken since she had got them. She put them all in a bag and left them on his doorstep. Her problems went away after that!
You're Not Fat -
"Handling the Potential Trouble Source" L. Ron Hubbard
"Suppressive Persons and Potential Trouble Sources" L. Ron Hubbard
Dianetics L. Ron Hubbard
"Disconnection" L. Ron Hubbard
"The Antisocial Personality" L. Ron Hubbard
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"Ups and Downs" Ruth Minshull
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